Essays
I cannot say
I cannot say I know things I cannot say. Nodes of information span what feels like infinite space, like a living constellation. Everything connects. Threads everywhere. It’s all there but I don’t know where to pull from first. It’s not linear, there is no hierarchy of information. Each node in…
Love in Solitude
Love in Solitude My previous essay led me to the solitude I know, and know to return to. It helped me think out some things, but it felt unfinished. What happens to solitude when someone else enters? __ I grew up with solitude. Partly context, partly my nature. I spoke to the moon, found…
On Victimhood and Responsibility
On Victimhood and Responsibility Capacity, Power, and the Erasure of Context A response to the way the language of responsibility is used to silence rather than clarify. Twenty years ago, at a time when I was barely holding myself…
Unmasking, Slowly
Later-in-life awareness or diagnosis has been on my mind. My own lived experience with late-diagnosed AuDHD is part of this, alongside the newness of unmasking I witness in my work and community. At the start, a sense of urgency can hit hard. Awareness arrives and suddenly feels like a demand —…
Being "Better"
“Better” Feel better, do better, be better. “A word is a small witness, but it carries the trace of how we have learned to see.” — John Berger Recently, someone close to me said they wanted to be “a better person.” My thought was: just be. Not because I don’t believe in growth or…